1 Simple Rule To Bettering The Way You Express Your Love To Others

We are moms.

We are wives.

We are housekeepers, chefs, teachers, nurses etc. etc. etc.

We have a 24/7, all year round kind of job that requires us to work even on our sick days, and a lot of times we don’t even get the acknowledgement that we SO deserve.


We all know that we wouldn’t have it any other way.

Being a mother is such a blessing and is so rewarding when we can see the fruits of our love, care and teachings in our children.

Now, this post is not entirely about how beautiful motherhood is, but about how we can better the way we express our love to other with this one simple thing:


You’re probably saying, “Of course I love myself! What is she taking about?”

Well, loving yourself goes beyond just saying that you do. Loving yourself requires demonstration just like it would with anyone else you say you love.

Loving ourselves involves caring for ourselves, pampering ourselves, having happy moments in our alone time.

It is important that we take time to care for ourselves because we give so much of who we are to our families and we wouldn’t want to give off our frustration, and overwhelming emotions to those around us.

You know when you are on an airplane and they go through the safety procedures before the plane takes off?

One of the things they mention when they talk about where the safety mask is and how to put it on, is to make sure you PUT YOURS ON FIRST.

Why do you think that is?

It’s because in you trying to be a super human and save your neighbors before yourself, you are putting yourself at risk of loosing oxygen and no longer being helpful to those around.

As I already mentioned, being a mother comes with so many other hats, so many different responsibilities and tasks, and it can become very draining- very quickly.

But, if you have gotten into the habit of taking moments to re-calibrate yourself, your responsibilities won’t really feel like so much of a burden.

If you don’t stop to care you yourself, who will?

Sometimes I take a day, or a few days a week to have “ME TIME.”

I put the baby to sleep, spend some time with my husband, and then find a little corner to just reflect, read a book while eating my favorite snack, paint my toes, or do something as simple as take a long, hot shower without any interruptions of a crying baby.

Some days I’ll go out alone for a drive to the discount store or to a clothing store and enjoy those few moments of not changing diapers or worrying about the next feeding time. Those are the things that bring me peace and joy-aside from my loved ones of course!

Find what makes YOU happy.

Whether it’s getting your nails or hair done, going to the gym, watching a movie, or even reading a beautiful devotional.

You need that time to embrace who you are, to practice your talents, to feed your mind with things things that will edify you.

The bible tells us that we must love our neighbor as we love ourselves [Mathew 22:39], but how can we demonstrate and share our love with others if we do not know how to love ourselves?

The bible also tells us that we are temples of the Living God [1 Corinthians 3:16]. Since that is true, we must tend to and care for our temples; making sure it is well kept inside (our emotions) and on the outside (our appearance).

Even Jesus took some time for himself on the top of the mountain. He needed time to reflect, pray, and just connect with God.

There is NOTHING WRONG with wanting some alone time.

There is nothing wrong with wanting to do something for yourself every now and again.

You go above and beyond for your family, alone time is VERY MUCH NEEDED.

Here’s a quick story about my mom.

She has always been a workaholic! Every year, as far as I could remember, around Christmas time-without fail, she would get sick with either a cold or the flu. It wasn’t until two years ago that I put two and two together. I realized that she would wear herself out throughout the year that by the time the Christmas season came, which is demanding in itself, her body was crying out for some TLC (Tender Love and Care) and her immune system would crash. This is the truth ladies!

We NEED to take breaks so that we can function as normal human beings for ourselves and for our families who need us.

Once we understand how to love ourselves we are able to love on those around us.

We can then appreciate others because we value the beautiful person that God created us to be!

Need some “ME TIME” Ideas?

  • Read a book you’re really interested in
  • Find a hobby, if you don’t already have one, and do it
  • Pamper yourself
  • Have a lunch date with yourself
  • Start a journal
  • Make a vision board
  • Exercise
  • Watch a comedy
  • Start a new health regimen
  • Take a nap
  • Go for a walk or jog
  • Go for a massage
  • Splurge a little on yourself

Have a “Me Time” established already? What do you do to re-calibrate? Please share below!


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(4) Comments

  1. I am so glad that you have learned the importance of self-care Christine. I’m still trying to master it with my little one, but I’m making progress! 🙂

  2. That is so true Rebecca. I love naps!

  3. I learned this truth the hard way. I look after myself much better now. It gets a lot easier as the children get older.

  4. Rebecca Jones says:

    Sometimes, even changing what you are doing is a break, i have have become a fan of naps, learned just to be quiet and rest.

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