Have you ever found yourself feeling as though you were drowning in a sea of responsibilities?
I mean being a mom life requires you to wear enough hats, but then you add on the roles and responsibilities of a wife, leader in ministry, professional in a career, daughter, sister, friend, student (for those of us in school), and life can begin to feel like such a burden.
On Friday I found myself feeling overwhelmed.
My baby was hysterically crying for the fifth time that day, my husband who was tired from work was getting ready to take a nap, I had homework to do, washed clothes that needed to be put away and dinner needed to be made.
For a second I felt as though the room was spinning and that I was going to be taken into another scene, like in the movies, where I would be running in a field of wildflowers and trees, looking back at my responsibilities and then running even faster away from them!
I let my husband deal with the baby and I locked myself in the bathroom for a few minutes.
I took a deep breath and prayed, “Lord, give me strength.” Then I did a mental list of the most important things I needed to get done, and I walked out and got to it.
Have you ever found yourself in a moment like that? Where you feel like so much is being thrown at you, so much is being expected of you, and all you really want is for things to slow down just a bit, but they don’t?
You’re not alone!
I’ve been a mama to my beautiful baby boy for almost a year now, but throughout this year I have learned so much about being a mom.
I’ve learned so much more about being a wife.
And I’ve learned that no matter how much you try to balance, some days are just going to take you for a whirlwind.
In those moments, instead of worrying about balance and structure, I have learned to just pause and find peace.
If you’re like me, always busy maintaining your home while tending to your husband and little one or little one(s), you’re probably reading this either as your child is sleeping or occupied making a mess out of his or her toys. You may have even been able to escape for a quick bathroom break and thought it would be a good time to check your phone and read this post (That’s me, ALL THE TIME.)
So because I know your time is valuable here’s a quick guide to remember when you’re having one of those hectic days and you just need some peace.
#1 Take deep breathes
Relax your mind and body.
#2 Think of things that make you happy
Forget about the laundry that needs to get done, and think about the smiles of your little ones (that’s what melts my heart) or maybe the thought of roses makes you happy. Whatever it is, think about it.
Connect with the Prince of Peace. Know that He is your strength and that if you connect with him, nothing can stop you.
#4 Speak words of affirmation over yourself
You are resilient. You are doing the best you can. Your best is sufficient for your family. You are powerful and you can get through this day.
Here are tips to help you avoid getting burnt out:
Don’t try to cram so much in for one day. Pace yourself with things to do throughout the week so that you are productive and effective and not overwhelmed and burnt out.
Make time for yourself
Whether it be going on a daily walk alone, reading a devotional, or relaxing on your porch, do something for yourself! You really need it, trust me! Read this post to see why.
Ask for help
Don’t be ashamed to ask for help. Being a mother is super draining, and if you feel like you are reaching a breaking point, then get the help you need ASAP.
LASTLY, always remember that your family will not remember how many times you washed their clothes, cleaned the floors, organized their toys, etc., what they will remember and cherish are the moments that you spent loving on them, playing with them, and teaching them. Sometimes house work and errands can wait, making precious memories has more value. Don’t stress so much about equally balancing, your family will always out-way everything else.