Being An Intentional Mama

It’s the start of a new year and for many that means developing new habits, bettering ourselves and starting fresh. This year I’ve decided to be more intentional.

As mothers, we carry a great deal of weight in our households. We juggle cooking, cleaning, maintaining relationships, raising babies and so much more!

“Mom life” can definitely warp you into a black hole of exhaustion, self-pity, and overall dejection, if you let it. I’ve been there!

This is why I have made a commitment to myself to be more intentional.

Remember when you were pregnant and you were nesting to prepare for the coming of your newest little blessing? Or, for those who are married, the months of preparation before your big wedding day? The time you set aside to plan and make sure that everything was in order for your special day? In both cases, you were being intentional. You were doing things in preparation, on purpose, for a greater purpose.


When I think about being intentional I think of the woman described in the Bible in Proverbs 31. She has always been someone that I have admired! Aside from being an amazing wife, she was very intentional about everything that she did. She planned, she prepared, she worked hard and it was always noted by those around her.

I am motivated by her.

I believe that she was efficient in all of her roles because she was intentional. She was intentional about getting up before dawn to prepare a meal for her family. She was intentional about planning out the day’s work for her servant girls and she was hardworking in her duties inside and outside of the home. What I love the most about the story of the woman in Proverbs 31 is that the Bible states that she was energetic, strong, wise and was known for her kindness!

Do you see why I believe intentionality is essential for us moms to live more efficient and happy lives?

I’m not sure if you like living day to day dragging your feet to make breakfast for your family, or taking your children to appointments or extracurricular activities, or even spending a little quality time with your husband after a long day with the children, but I SURE DON’T.

This is why I choose to be intentional this year!

How To Be Intentional

We all have different lifestyles, different roles, and responsibilities so I can’t tell you specifically what you need to be more intentional about, but I can definitely share what I’m doing!

Here are the top 3 things I am being more intentional about this year:

Meal Prepping

I used to meal prep all the time when I worked outside of the home, but I fell off the wagon and developed the bad habit of brainstorming what to cook only when we got hungry. That can be so stressful, especially when you feel like making something but realize at the last minute that you do not have the ingredients you need to make the dish! Then, who wants to run out to the store with a hungry toddler? Not me! So yes, now more than ever, since we are expecting baby #2 soon, meal prepping is definitely something I am being intentional about!

Spending Quality Time With My Husband

Many things change when you have children! My husband and I both agree that before we had our first son we were so much more spontaneous about going out and traveling whereas now we have more things to consider before stepping out of the house. Though we love our children to death, we recognize that our marriage needs more attention than we have been giving it for the past two years. For this reason, we have decided to be more intentional about spending alone time to continue flourishing our marriage. I am excited to experience this new chapter of our lives together and I will gladly share how this has worked out for us as we go along!

Reflection and Mental/Physical Self Care

The analogy of putting on your own oxygen mask before putting someone else’s on fascinates me. It always puts things in perspective. How can I help others before helping myself? We give so much of ourselves, it’s only fair that we give ourselves just as much attention and care! Being intentional about making time for myself is really important to me this year and I am determined to make it apart of my lifestyle.

What is important to you? What areas of your life do you wish to improve? How can you be more intentional in your household and with your relationships?

This is going to be a great year mama! We can do this!

There are many virtuous and capable women in the world, but you surpass them all!

Proverbs 31:29

What do you plan on being more intentional about this year?
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(2) Comments

  1. That makes so much sense and quite frankly I find myself wanting control many times as well! But I think I sort of learned, or maybe I should say, I’m getting better at knowing when it’s God’s timing versus when I just want it. Thank you so much for reading and sharing Melissa!

  2. I love this! Being intentional is something that I’ve been thinking about a lot lately. My aunt had 6 kids, homeschooled them all, lived out in the middle of nowhere on a ton of land, raised her family vegan, taught her kids from an early age how to cook and clean….all things I admire and all things she planned out well before she even had kids. I feel like I am just kind of winging everything. I am a huge planner….but, I think God waits to give me any sort of vision for my future to teach me how to release that control I love so much (and one reason I am such a planner, so I can have control). For example, I wanted to homeschool my kids before I was even a mom but I had to wait until my oldest was in the 4th grade before I got to do that…or, I wanted a lot of kids but my husband only wanted 2 so I just weasled 5 out of him…I want to live on land and have goats that I milk but God has us living in a neighborhood in the city with no plans to move anytime in our near future. I want to be more intentional this year but still release that control and just wait for Him to show me what’s next, if that makes any sense at all!

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