The GOOD, The BAD, And The HONEST Truth About Being A YOUNG MOM

You have a baby?

You look like a baby yourself

That was one of the comments made by one of my college professors on the first day of class.

An ‘older’ looking mom may have taken that comment as a compliment, but I honestly was a bit bothered by it. 

I smirked and looked away.

What I really wanted to say was:

Yes, I’m a young mom- I had my baby at 23 years old and I’m actually happy I did! 

I think out of everything I’ve experienced as a mother, the most unpleasant thing I’ve dealt with are the snarky comments like my professor’s or the side eye looks I get when walking into a doctors’ offices or supermarkets with my little guy. 

After having conversations with other young moms, I’m comforted in knowing that I’m not the only one dealing with this, but it’s also a bit disheartening to know that many young moms have to deal with this issue. 

Not everyone’s life journey is the same.

Some women become mothers as teenagers, some after their thirties and some like myself fall in between. Everyone’s situation is different. 

REGARDLESS OF AGE, every mother deserves the same level of respect. 

Being a mom isn’t easy in GENERAL.

But yes, sometimes being a young mom can be a bit more challenging.

I was curious to see what my other young mama friends had to say about the challenges of being a young mom and here was the response one of them gave me:

“My biggest challenge at the time was going back to work after maternity leave. I went back after 6 weeks off. Since my fiancé & I were both young at the time our jobs were nowhere near stable.  My fiancé got laid off after I gave birth and remained unemployed for the first 8 months of our son’s life.

We had to move back in with family and just the overall pressure of a single income household with a newborn fell on me. Along with that going on, another challenge about being a young mom was finding other young mamas to meet up & talk to.

The ONLY way I overcame these challenges was accepting Jesus!

***John 14:6 (So true!)

It wasn’t until I literally gave it ALL to God. I was stressed, worried, & feeling lonely. I surrendered my life and told him to teach me, change me & take control.

***John 8:12 (No more walking in darkness)

He saved me & my family & I truly believe he put us on his guided path!

***Romans 10:13 (Our Father Saves!)

Now, although I am still a young mom, 25 with a 2-year-old. I never see it that way anymore. I have met & befriended so many young mamas now (because of my open heart) more than ever before.

***Luke 1:45 (I was blessed for believing) 

I may be walking on a tightrope through this life; balancing family, work, friends & time with God. But by keeping my eyes fixed on God, not looking left, right or down just straight ahead. I know that he is strong, he supports me, he is with me & by his grace & his good will for each of us; We can overcome!”

All I could say after reading this was WOW!

Thank you so much for sharing your amazing testimony Kayla!

I could relate to this in SO many ways! 

Although I’ve been serving God for almost 10 years now, finding out I was pregnant when my husband and I didn’t find ourselves in a financially stable situation and then having a baby with only one income coming in was tough for us as well but I recognize that we could NOT have gotten this far without God.

I was speaking with another friend who had her first child at the age of 19, she is now in her early 30’s.

She shared that of course, it was very challenging in the beginning because she was forced to mature quickly since she now had another human to care for. She also shared that as looks back now, becoming a young mom made her the “strong woman” she is today. 

There is a particular beauty in being a young mom. We may have not been around as long as other moms, but what I do know for sure is that children have a way of changing the way we see and think about things for the better. 

Being a young mom has changed me.

I view the world with such a different perspective. I see life through the eyes of my child. Full of possibilities, full of wonder, full of beauty.

Prior to motherhood the work of a mother goes unnoticed, but now I see, I feel and I look up to the mamas who have done it, are doing it and who are setting an example for the future generations of mothers. Becoming a mother has made me appreciate my mother more than ever before! Thank you for always working so hard to provide for us mom!

Being a young mom has taught me how to connect.

I can relate to the mama who’s in school trying to get a degree to become a professional. I can relate to the hard working mama who wakes up every morning, takes her child to a babysitter to make a living. I can relate to the stay at home mama who’s constantly working with no monitory compensation. I can connect because that’s my life too. Motherhood doesn’t have to be a lonely journey! Motherhood is a sisterhood! I call it The Motherhood Ministry. But what it really is, is mamas from all backgrounds supporting one another. It really makes this journey much lighter when you can connect to others!

Being a young mom has shown me another aspect of womanhood. 

A more nurturing and selfless side. A side that requires maturity and mindfulness of others. 

Becoming a young mother was a blessing in disguise for me. When I first found out that I was pregnant I didn’t feel prepared. I really didn’t feel suitable for the job, but God thought otherwise, and here I am embracing this beautiful journey one day at a time.  

Regardless of age, at the end of our days, we all still have ONE BIG RESPONSIBILITY!

And that is to raise the next generation of healthy, kind, respectful individuals.

Age does not define the kind of mother you will be, you define it.  

Are you a young mama? What have been your challenges and how have you overcome them? Please share in the comments, I want to hear from you!

(13) Comments

  1. Great! Thank you so much. Keep up the good work.

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  5. Many thanks posting this blog and making it public

  6. I’m so glad you were able to relate <3

  7. I am an adult female and I really like your writing!

  8. Thanks I needed this

  9. I am 43 years old and a mother this helped me!

  10. I am 45 year old women and this helped me out alot!

  11. great information thank you

  12. “However, I’ve never looked at an older mama and said “gee, you look more like her grandma” or “you look to old to be a toddlers mom”. 🙄 just say’n.”
    Haha that’s what I’m saying! Jen, thanks so much for reading and sharing your experiences <3

  13. Great post! Loved it!

    I had my first daughter at 19, now I’m 33 and she’s almost 14. When I introduce her to people they always say “0h! you look like sisters” or “you don’t look old enough to have a teenager!”

    I don’t let it bother me- I’m an awesome mom, she’s an amazing daughter. My husband and I have built a great life! I had my second daughter at 26- it didn’t make me any better of a mother.

    However, I’ve never looked at an older mama and said “gee, you look more like her grandma” or “you look to old to be a toddlers mom”. 🙄 just say’n.

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